People are so busy planning their weddings with the multitude of various items to consider, there comes a point where the mind gets over-saturated and wants to let go and just get there. Typically you can get through the reception and party part of the wedding, because most people have a good idea of what they want to have and have happen, and plan all that out.
But one place that typically gets left behind in the thought process is the the ceremony itself. We may say we want an elegant ceremony. Maybe we want a relaxed, fun one. Maybe a traditional, religious one. but often this decision is left to the officiant and leader of the facility you are getting married.
We put ourselves in their hands, because for most of us we are simply exhausted by the planning and we often imagine this part is not up to us. We're giving over here to this large moment that is often surreal and overwhelming. So this is the one place that typically does not get the most personal touches, and even if there are personal touches in it, they are often not as well received as could possibly be because of nerves and lack of great direction.
Here's the thing, and I've said this before. Your guests have come there for you. To see you. To support you. To share in one of the great moments of your life. Most of them have known you for a while, some your whole life. They've seen your ups and downs, they know your foibles, your fears, your goals, your dreams. They know your history, your tragedies, your triumphs and now they are rooting for you. They want to see this happy ending-new beginning flourish. But even more so they want to experience it with you.
But far too often (and you know this if you've been to a few weddings) your family and special guests are fairly removed from the full experience. Why? Well if you're sitting in the 10th row or farther back you can't see that well. And most usually it's because the bride and groom are facing away from you and you're watching the back of them.You cannot see them or their expressions.
What happens at most weddings is the officiant is the focal point of the proceedings.He/she is the one facing the guests. Guests get to see them for the whole ceremony. This can be great sometimes if the officiant is stunningly amazing, but that is rare. But even so I don't know them. I know the bride and groom. And I wanted to see the bride and groom and their expressions.They are why I'm there. I want to feel their experience and share it.
So here's two ways to create an unbelievably UNFORGETTABLE wedding CEREMONY:
1 - Have the bride and groom face out to the guests as the officiant speaks. Not completely out but turned so that they can see each other, but toward the guests as opposed to toward the officiant. This way we
2 - Have two videographers there with big screens so that the guests can see them on the screen.
can participate in the nuances and emotions of the moment.
The first way costs nothing. The second way is a bit of an investment.
The great thing about this is it galvanizes the experience for everyone and brings you closer to them. If you have any specialty things planned like speaking vows or sharing some original content it simply brings everyone right into your life and experience.
Now I hear some of you already thinking I'm way to nervous to do this. Yes, it's a very heightened time, but remember who is there with you. Everyone who you care about and cares about you either directly or now
If you would like more information on how you can put this kind of ceremony together and more tips and ways to make your ceremony UNFORGETTABLE please contact me. Michael Sage Schindler - 917 204-9690 or www.LSNY.net/by association with your mate. You will be giving them something of such rare value that you will be solidifying and connecting with your community in a way that binds you to this moment forever.
Those who were at my wedding had this experience as did I and my wife. And while it was certainly unorthodox, it offered up some very funny, heartfelt, touching and deeply meaningful moments to everyone. An experience that many of who were there were talking about more than 4 years later.
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